Mature character demands we outgrow our natural egocentrism. But an entitled, egocentric, narcissistic culture holds many of us back.
Most pathological lying is tactical lying, for the sole purpose of maintaining a position of advantage to abuse and exploit.
With narcissistic personalities, one description does not really fit all. Vulnerable, “compensatory” types are very different from their heartless, “grandiose” counterparts.
True codependency is widely misunderstood, and often mistaken for emotional dependency, a significant risk factor for abuse and exploitation in relationships.
Some so-called denial is rooted in obstinacy, a stubborn refusal to accept a reality that challenges a person to change and grow.
Cultural desensitization to character dysfunction allowed behaviors that were once rare or unthinkable to become “the new normal.”
Making amends for harm done is a duty, to be sure. But the spirit with which one does this noble work of repair testifies to one’s character.
Contrition goes beyond mere regret or even remorse. The contrite person hurts because of the hurt they caused. And they work to mend wounds.
Recognizing manipulation tactics when you encounter them, and responding appropriately is key to both sanity and personal empowerment.
Egocentricity and attitudes of entitlement are normal characteristics of immaturity. Growing beyond these tendencies is the mark of mature character.