Relational abuse happens in therapy when a therapist permits abusive “business as usual” between partners or is bamboozled by a manipulator.
A Healthy Heart A healthy heart is a ultimately a heart at peace. It’s a heart both warm and open. To have such a heart is to have just about everything. But sadly, in our times, too many hearts are aching, broken and bruised, and longing for so much more. Unhealthy hearts are just one … Continue reading A Healthy Conscience Makes a Healthy Heart
Some disturbed characters are nearly or totally without conscience. Such folks are very dangerous, especially if given the reins of power.
It’s hard to count all of today’s impediments to forming a healthy conscience.
Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character
For a child – or even an adult – to grow positively in character, it indeed takes a village. But the kind of village matters. A community or culture that promotes attitudes of entitlement, excessive self-focus, instant gratification, poor self-regulation, etc. will only help produce individuals impaired in their capacity to relate to others in wholesome, productive ways. That’s what character disturbance is all about.
While character integrity is essential for civil, wholesome relationships, it’s also, surprisingly, the key to a genuinely rich and fulfilling life!
Senseless violence keeps increasing. And character – more folks among us possessing solid internal controls and resources, is society’s best insurance against it.
Folks skilled in manipulation of the heart know what to say or do to win you over. They aim not so much to love you but to get you to be enamored of them.
Lingering gaslighting effects can make you doubt yourself and your judgment even after you’ve come to know better about your partner and their tactics.