Our Core Beliefs Make All The Difference

The revolution that’s taken place within the mental health field over the past few decades (commonly called the cognitive-behavioral revolution) has brought to the forefront the importance of our “core beliefs.”  It’s how we see things (e.g., the interpretations we make, the attitudes we harbor, and the meanings we ascribe to things, etc.) that so heavily influences how we conduct ourselves.

As I’ve mentioned several times on my Character Matters program, the freedoms we enjoy are under assault from both external and internal sources.  And at the heart of the threats we face are ideologies and ways of thinking that discount the value of every human life and advance self-serving power agendas. What we believe really matters, whether we’re somewhat narcissistic and think we’re entitled to take whatever we want no matter who or what gets negatively affected in the process, or we’ve affiliated ourselves with a group that believes its particular philosophy should dominate and all who don’t adhere to the same philosophy are inherently inferior and perhaps even unworthy to exist (For more on this topic see: A Peek Inside the Mindset of Terror and Radical Ideologies: Deadly Ways of Thinking).

There was a time in psychology when therapists were held in low esteem for passing any type of judgment on the beliefs or attitudes their patients held.  But in the age of character disturbance, no self-respecting therapist can avoid not only recognizing but also confronting the dysfunctional beliefs that inevitably damage relationships.  This is the heart of what many subscribers to the cognitive-behavioral perspective call the A-B-C model of perception and behavior.  In this model, the “A” stands for the antecedent events that trigger a response in us and the “B” stands for both the core beliefs we hold about the world and the interpretations we make about those events.  The “C,” of course, stands for the consequences of those beliefs, especially with regard to the conduct we’re likely to display as a result of our beliefs.  So, within this model, understanding human behavior is as easy as A-B-C.  That is, if you want to change how people act or respond to circumstances, you first have to address how they think, it’s as simple as that.  A man who holds the beliefs that women are naturally inferior and are meant to be subservient will most likely behave in an abusive manner toward his spouse.  And a young person who holds the belief that nothing really matters except getting all you can while you can and any way you can is most likely to lead his or her life in a callous, hedonistic way. So these days, most well-trained therapists looking to help change destructive behavior patterns no longer avoid dealing directly with the attitudes and beliefs their clients hold.

The world is facing some very trying times right now and likely will for some time to come.  In fact, the world is already at war (Many argue that it’s never not been so) and driving this war are some fiercely competing ideologies.  It’s analogous to the conflict that’s long gone on between mostly “neurotic” vs. mostly character-impaired people but on a much larger and potentially more deadly scale.  And if we’re to survive as a species we’ll have to eventually come to terms with our beliefs and embrace some common core principles.  Getting to that point will be no easy task, and there’s always a chance we won’t make it as a species (we might just exploit each other, abandon each other, kill each other, or sufficiently ignore our common needs and our resources to the extent we can no longer sustain human life as we know it).  Nevertheless, it’s the challenge we face.

We can no longer avoid confronting and dealing directly with the issue of our beliefs and our belief systems. Our survival depends on our ability to find and embrace beliefs that are not merely of a variety that we can all live with but rather are of a character that inherently respect and promote human welfare.  And it’s this cause that really defines my personal mission for the rest of the time I’m granted.  My books In Sheep’s Clothing, Character Disturbance, and The Judas Syndrome, this blog, and my radio program (This topic will receive heavy attention on Character Matters for some time to come) are just some of my efforts toward that end. And I’ll be announcing some interesting new others over the course of the year.

37 thoughts on “Our Core Beliefs Make All The Difference

  1. Dr. Simon, I certainly wish you luck in your mission. You have the access, reputation and character to really spread the word and make a difference. I just see so much damage in our society……broken families are not helping the situation and some say that it’s the cause of OUR country’s break down anyway. I think it goes deeper than that but I’m not sure how to put it into words……….it all seems so complex. Every where I turn there seems to be really REALLY messed up people and young people in the process of growing up to be really messed up people. I live in a VERY small and rather isolated community so there is less of it here but still plenty. I do think the ratio is better than in more populated area.
    I don’t know, I hope that there is hope but it would seem that things usually have to get much worse before they get better. Again…………….it’s VERY complex.

    1. Another great article Dr. Simon. It is sickening to interact with persons who loudly and frequently profess core beliefs in integrity and value of all human life and then proceed to act in ways that grossly betray those beliefs. To say one values integrity and the well being of others and then attack someone with the justification of avenging a wrong alleged to have been committed is the hallmark of psychopathy. The behavior is particularly offensive when the allegations are repeated ad nauseam and no viable evidence is presented. Add secrecy to the picture and the whole act looks even more like psychopathy. Its as if the words integrity and well being of others are repeated loudly and frequently enough and with sufficient force the allegations would magically come true. This is why your blog is so important. it helps other see the tactics that disordered individuals use to persuade others around them. Core beliefs do matter more than anything its true. The task for all of us is to discern the real core beliefs that are present in those that we interact with and see through the smokescreen of righteous words and psychodrama when these individuals push so hard for an action that harms someone. Best of health to you and continued success in your pursuit of your mission.

      Puddle we are at the worst now and it can only get better.

      1. Scott,
        “The task for all of us is to discern the real core beliefs that are present in those that we interact with and see through the smokescreen of righteous words and psychodrama when these individuals push so hard for an action that harms someone.”
        This is a task that is inherently difficult to do with a covert manipulator or anyone who may have covert bad intentions.”
        The COVERT nature of really really bad people is the crux of the matter in my opinion. Many MANY things can be other than what they appear to be.

        1. well J, sometimes you don’t really SEE someone’s true character until it’s staring you in the face because it’s too late. As they say, hindsight is 20/20.

          1. Ain’t that the truth Puddle! Living in a state of confusion with these types you can never really hope to see the real truth. It’s only when you make known to them that you will not put up with it any more and that veil has been torn off do you REALLY see the REAL depth of disturbance even though it was there all along. Scenarios still repeat in my brain when I tried to work it all out and now I can see clearly I can also see how messed up I was.
            Also pertaining to this article his core beliefs…he mirrored so effectively to me, my family, friends and probably to his own family (though I can’t be sure on that one) that he was this new age caring guy who helped around the house etc…yet it was not the reality. The reality was I was supposed to care for his every need, I was to be his cushion, I was supposed to do has he says. Women for him in reality are to be seen and not heard as the saying goes. I believe he used my core beliefs to his advantage…one of them being my belief in marriage and the vows I took. I believed them with all my heart and I now realise it was these beliefs that made it easy for him to manipulate me. Of course I know longer believe in for better or worse that’s for sure.

          1. I would dare to say, it’s the one lesson that can only be learned the hard way because normal people who have never been exposed can not wrap their head around the depravity of severely disordered people’s thinking and Modus Operandi. I couldn’t and still have a hard time and I grew up with one. But there are many many varieties of these types and just when you think you have seen the worst of it……….surprise!

          2. J my ex was rather skilled in assessing people and he was able to pin point people’s weaknesses easily. Again this is only making itself apparent to me now that I look back and for the most part he was accurate. Yet one thing really stands out now is that those who he believed had his number he loathed straight away. One extended family member comes to mind, she let him know in her own way what she thought of him. I remember it clearly, his usual charm did not work at all. He hated her with such venom. I’ll admit she is not the type of person you can warm to easily but I’ll giver her her due she had him pegged. Pity I couldn’t just know that off the bat!

          3. Yes, Tori, very good indeed. We need to assess people as well. We need that in droves.

            I actually wondered some time ago whether we could have a mind that also actively and automatically observes both ourselves, others and environment.

            Letting this brew in my mind.

    2. “To say one values integrity and the well being of others and then attack someone with the justification of avenging a wrong alleged to have been committed is the hallmark of psychopathy.”

      Sounds very different from a scenario where one doesn’t violate anyone else’s rights, but then really gets wronged oneself and takes revenge. An extreme example, in my opinion, would be schoolshooters(at least some).

      Then there are exploiters playing the servant.

      “The behavior is particularly offensive when the allegations are repeated ad nauseam and no viable evidence is presented.”

      Having read about bullying and emotional abuse on different sites, that brings to mind when a bully or an emotional abuser falsely accuses a target of something. If you’re accused once, twice makes you more guilty.

      Pretty much also what terror-mongers do, be they dictators, cult leaders, terrorists or whatever they may be.

      “The task for all of us is to discern the real core beliefs that are present in those that we interact with and see through the smokescreen of righteous words and psychodrama”

      Reminds me of a term by Jung. Shadow projection. It’s when some powerful complexes we’ve banished beyond the repression barrier, into the Shadow, project themselves into outer world, distorting our perceptions. You probably get where I’m going with this.

      Also found an article handling these so-called conversions. http://www.culthelp.info/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=9&Itemid=5

      “we are at the worst now and it can only get better.”

      I hope you’re right, Scott, I hope you’re right.

      1. Great point J:
        ” “To say one values integrity and the well being of others and then attack someone with the justification of avenging a wrong alleged to have been committed is the hallmark of psychopathy.”
        Sounds very different from a scenario where one doesn’t violate anyone else’s rights, but then really gets wronged oneself and takes revenge. An extreme example, in my opinion, would be schoolshooters(at least some).”
        It’s my belief that Sapthtard is from this camp, and his mother and his sister and who knows who of his other tag alongs: ” “To say one values integrity and the well being of others and then attack someone with the justification of avenging a wrong alleged to have been committed is the hallmark of psychopathy.”

        I know I was misjudged by his highness and it was the absolute most bizarre thing to try, over and over and over and over, to reason with him and convince him that the way he was retelling an event was just not the way it either happened or was intended. SO bizarre. I have never in my life had this happen with someone where no matter what you tried to say or how you said it they would NOT believe you? Usually when there is a misunderstanding, you explain the your truth, apologize for the misunderstanding and any way you may have contributed to it and both people move on. Not with him. Even if he said he understood something was a joke or you had not meant it in the way he took it he would revisit it months or years later. I still don’t know what to make of it, if he really just would not accept it or if he was just throwing it back into the ring to watch me cave in in frustration.

      2. J, this is a way of keeping you off balance and on the defensive and the focus off of them. Spathtard again!
        “The behavior is particularly offensive when the allegations are repeated ad nauseam and no viable evidence is presented.”
        Having read about bullying and emotional abuse on different sites, that brings to mind when a bully or an emotional abuser falsely accuses a target of something. If you’re accused once, twice makes you more guilty.”
        Maybe he had to keep it alive and in the ring because it was the only thing he had to point to,,,,,,,his fantasy injuries. Another thing he would do ALL the time is embellish something I had said to make it more offensive. Like if I asked him what he was doing and he was offended by me asking, he would retell it that I had stormed out the door and said “What the f are you doing”. This particular incident stands so firm in my mind because I had stood inside and really put my thoughts together so things didn’t go haywire because we both had been drinking and I knew things could go wrong. I floated my question on a feather pillow and he translated it into this jack hammer type attack. ALWAYS something with his highness. How DARE I?

      3. Sounds like you got me wrong on one account or quoted me wrong on accident. It’s a different scenario when one lashes out after a wrong suffered. His highness distorted things on purpose. That’s machination. Sounds like he got narcissistic wounds from anything really at BEST.

        Sure, wanting to “make up for” an actual misjustice may not be reactive or out of insecurity or to compensate for feelings of wounded trust. It’s still a different thing from distorting things on purpose, making things up to look better, being hypervigilant for chances to be combative or having an ego overly touchy and hyper-sensitive to criticism.

        But I guess these things CAN overlap.

        1. J, no, I got your meaning, just giving an example of the disordered’s (aka, “his highness’s)
          “justification of avenging a wrong alleged to have been committed”. 🙂
          I can SO picture his highness and mommy sitting around the kitchen table tittering about how they will get even and teach that mean old Puddle a lesson. I’m sure there are other names from Spathtard’s past who have been in the exact same position, possibly merely for putting their foot down and drawing a line in the sand or holding him accountable FINALLY for his piss poor behavior and mistreatment. Like I’ve said, his mommy is his greatest supporter/ enabler.

        2. These things sound similar to what that girl told me and my friend about Viper. Except for mother bits. For what I’ve heard(just a rumour), Viper’s parents(who are proper people both of them) may have divorced when Viper was way past 18. So doesn’t matter.

        3. There is a big difference between seeking justice(or wanting to) and seeking revenge for something that has been over blown or misinterpreted to begin with. I truly believe that certain types look for reasons to self righteously slam someone else to make themselves look better. the reality of it though is that they are only legends in their own minds and those they can get to believe their version of reality. Usually there is very little to point to that would back them up but it’s amazing how little their followers expect from them.
          My brother set the bar so low for himself, starting from a very young age, that merely doing anything that somewhat looks like something remotely similar to what should be expected from a person gets his a ridiculous amount of praise. It is quite sickening. I actually feel bad for him in a way because he didn’t get his feet held to the fire as a child and what might have been corrected or at least made better was not. In reality the last of proper structure and parenting only added fuel to the fire I’m sure of it.
          Same with Spathtard, I think (pretty much know) that he was quite a disappointment in his very VERY successful father’s eyes but his mother coddled him and “there there” babied him and created a monster. No adult woman, without falling victim to his manipulation and lies, would ever want such a man in her life.

        4. Definitely. Can say about Viper that he seems to have that combative hypervigilance down pat. Those are the two words, aren’t they? Combative hypervigilance.

          I remember, when both I and Viper were still in junior high, in last days, overhearing Viper snicker to a few pals(or “pals”) about his how he tricks even his parents. Wow.

          He also looked for any vaguely convincing-sounding reasons why his then-girlfriend “deserved” to be “punished”. His female friend, She-Viper, knows and I know she knows him to be like he is. She backed up Viper’s story. As of junior high, she still seemed to be kinda decent, if very aloof. At some point, though, Viper seems to have befriended him and she’s digested many of his ideas whole, becoming a viper herself. I have heard this long after junior high from a few of my pals, who happened to know her. She’s aesthetically gifted and I’ve seen her make some actually very fine pieces of art. I still can’t feel sorry for her. She’s not in my life, either, and I’m grateful, truly. Can you say Virulent Viper?

          Then there’s Sinister Man. I recall it that we had many in our team, who were perfectly willing to be trained as leaders and enthused about it. I remember one, who really wanted to make sure our team performed well, though his patience wasn’t the best and a few times he whined like a little child(which I and some others found hilarious). Well, Sinister Man aimed to provoke him by some passive-aggressive behavior and subtle, unspoken petulance, among others he seemed to think revealed how bad he really was. I can’t know what he thought exactly, but many, many times would I see how it was very much him not bothering to make SOME effort. He went lying on a bed with his SHOES ON, after we had been explicitly told several times one isn’t supposed to do so, and he was notified of that by our trainer officer start-up.

          I remember an instance from the first week of the army stint. Our team had agreed to wake up before other teams so as to get our beds made before training corporals yelled to wake up. Of course, they had told us to help a teammate in need if they are not quite up to speed. We’d started making our beds alright. It went slower for me than I expected(later I would be able to be faster about it). Teammates near me were in process, but I noticed SM had almost made his bed. Pretty fast, when he actually bothered. I asked him to help me. He muttered: “Sure.” Then he finished his bed and sat down on a stool before it, without lifting a finger to help. I repeated my request. This time SM refused in a very blunt, rude manner. Asking why he claimed, with them all hearing, that I would’ve been nasty to him. No one else seemed to take notice at all, oddly enough. I wondered, right there and then, what the heck was really going on in his mind. I’d ordered and read Character Disturbance weeks before my stint beginning, so I pretty had a sense of what this was about. Still, did he use that as an excuse or did his mind actually distort things to extreme?

          Later when I asked him about it, he glibly claimed that he hadn’t said so and I “had said that” he “had said” so. I saw it for what it was and thought to myself: “Wow!”

          Later I asked a trainer corporal to talk to him, just to get a sense of what he might say. I thought that he might say something to the corporal, however untrue or distorted it would be, with the corporal still having my perspective. I later asked the corporal again. SM had dodged his question and claimed that he would’ve helped me if his bed was ready. I thanked the corporal.

          One man I knew from junior and senior high that was in the same stint told me he had overheard SM say casually to someone else that he(SM) was interested in leadership training so he could brandish his hold over newstarts. My buddy even used the words: “His thoughtscape was very twisted.” Luckily he ended up leaving after some self-claimed mental health problems that I’m not sure whether he actually had or not. I’ve heard many versions of that, but it’s hard to piece anything up.

          Also, I’ve mentioned a forum poster a few times, who liked to provoke and start fights with others. He was very much a victim personality, defeatist, down with life, also pretty gossipy and man-childish in a way. He seemed to get angry about small, small things. By the time he left, he had alienated many, many people or at least had them hesitant to speak to him because of how negative, bleak and joyless he was or because they were justifiably suspicious of what he would talk about them behind their backs. He had tons of issues.

          1. J, Wow,,,,,,,,first of all you are very fortunate that you had already done some homework (Character Disturbance) when you got into this situation! Sinister Man just sounds like an over all JERK! One way to see how outrageous their actions are is to try to put yourself in their position, picture yourself doing or saying exactly what they said or did. It really clarifies just how off base they are. I just love your names for these people! Sinister Man and Woman…….Viper….very creative! 🙂

          2. J, this bed making story is also an example of the difference between couldn’t and wouldn’t. He could have helped you but he wouldn’t and then of course he lied. Spath

          3. The forum poster seems different to me. Who knows what might be going on and we really never do know in some situations. Things can look one way but be for another reason or coming from a place we can’t see or understand, especially on a forum in the writen format.

          4. There are other unpleasant personalities than just sociopaths.

            Sinister Man was definitely someone better not trusted. He also seemed to have some things messed in his head.

            Some people had asked him in normal conversation whether he was from a certain place near our city. I’d once asked him, too, before hearing of these things. Another interesting pattern there was that he’d get uncomfortable, confused, weirded-out or suspicious and ask something like “Why do you want to know that?” He DIDN’T EVEN LIVE THERE. Some other people had spotted him getting off a certain train on a certain station far away from that place without him knowing, many, many times.

            SM also lacked social skills. When anyone of equal rank requested him to be more proper, he replied with curt “Shut up”.

            Never found out what was the matter with him and it doesn’t matter.

          5. Thanks for the suggestion, Puddle. What a technique.

            “try to put yourself in their position, picture yourself doing or saying exactly what they said or did. It really clarifies just how off base they are.”

          6. J, a long time ago……when I initially stopped drinking for the first time in my life, I was seeing a councilor and she opened my eyes to some of the things that had gone on in my family as a child. She told me to picture myself doing x,y,z around my boyfriend’s niece(who I had befriended) or saying x,y,z to her……..things that I had been around and exposed to by family members. It REALY put things into perspective for me and for the first time in my life I saw how bad some of the things had been for me as a child.

          7. J, I realize there are other types of not so nice people in this world besides socio/psychopaths, it’s just that every time you tell another story about sinister man, or is it viper, they just sound more and more like a socioSpath! I’m seeing zero redeeming qualities!

          8. What they are all about, I doubt they’re predatory. Let’s face it, sadists are nasty as well and I don’t want run into any one like that, either.

          9. About Sinister Man, he seemed to have clusters of different problems and I don’t think it had much(if anything)to do with impression management games. He seemed to get anxious or upset over small things, his people skills were lacking and he might have had some mental health problems.

            There was one weird case when some men, including I and him had been ordered to stay over weekend at the barracks(everyone is at some point, if there’s need to catch up with some missed training; funny, I only was once). We had completed the day’s training and could do whatever we liked for the rest of the day.

            One man, who I personally didn’t like so much because he could get cross or angry over some small things, but who would totally leave you alone no problem, was on the Computer, with his bag of candies next to it. Of course, each had own sweets. SM comes and asks the guy what he’s doing, nothing out of ordinary. Then SM, looking stiff and almost lost in his own world like always, sticks his hand in the guy’s bag of candies. The guy pulls the bag away and asks, angrily, what he’s doing. SM answers that he knows the rules(heard that before from him, he knows the rules) and he is well-raised.

            Some time later, the guy had to go to toilet. I, too, had been there and came to our room. SM was on this guy’s Computer, in plain view of people in the room who asked him what the hell he was doing. I doubt it was anything sinister in this case, but he was surfing on another guy’s computer without permission. Boundaries! The guy came back and told SM to get the hell away from his computer. Wow.

    1. Does anyone here have experience with being stalked on a blog like this? For example if a stalker heard that you read this blog and gained this information by illegal means. Maybe s/he hacked into your computer or used cell surveillance and s/he visits the blog to see your responses and then gossips with others about what you write. Has anyone experienced that here? Everyone knows triangulation is a common tactic of disordered types and if one experiences triangulation on this site or in life on their comments made here it seems rational to be concerned–agreed? Especially if this is in combination with being stalked in other realms of life. What can be done?

      1. Hi Hannah, are you asking because you are concerned that this has or is happening to you? I’m not sure what you are asking and why.

        1. Yes, I ask because I think that my posts are being read by someone, maybe more than one person, who knows that I follow this blog and gained that info by illegal means. Surveillance. I am also experiencing other acts of harassment and vandalism that I can’t write about here. I ask this question because I want to know if other readers know of people that stalk their posts and pass the information around to others that join them in covert aggression.

          1. Hi Hannah, I would imagine it is entirely possible. I suppose it is always best to be cautious about what you say on and internet site. Some are very judicial about what kind of information they post and some are very open. I don’t know what exactly you are concerned about so it’s hard for me to respond. If I’m forgetting your comments from the past I apologize. have you posted here a lot? Names escape me after a while, beyond the regulars. I’m very sorry to hear you are being harassed by someone and I can imagine how unsettling that could be. Regarding harassment and vandalism, I would recommend you contact the police in your area and I believe they have the ability to investigate cyber stalking as well. You could also contact Dr. Simon privately through the “Contact Dr. Simon” link at the bottom of the page. Perhaps he could offer you some other insights.

  2. Quote from Dr. Simon:
    “the freedoms we enjoy are under assault from both external and internal sources”
    “It’s analogous to the conflict that’s long gone on between mostly “neurotic” vs. mostly character-impaired people but on a much larger and potentially more deadly scale.”

    I suppose for a person who hasn’t had a bad encounter it would be difficult to understand a parallel between the disordered character[s] and the global terrorist. And it’s not common knowledge in the public square that a character that is disordered is a matter of degree. Although reality is the truth and the truth is that it all has the same roots and can be summed up in the same package.

    The common thread is the lack of common decency and respect towards humanity. The strong refusal to back down with the goal being to instill fear and gain control, to destroy and dismantle. The thieves of justice and freedom. Yes, different degrees, tactics, names, places and situations but the very same roots….the disordered character.

    The ground rules for our protection are basically the same for individuals as it is for nations.
    Be prepared.
    Set clear boundaries.
    Stand firm.
    Identify and know the behavior of the enemy.
    Remain diligent and be on guard.
    Question everything.
    Learn from our past experiences and learn from those who have journeyed before us.

    On a global level we hope and pray that our leaders and those in the chain of command of the free world fully understand and are willing and ready to do what it takes to protect their people and their homeland.

    In a nut-shell the battle between the good and the bad is all about our freedom to live peacefully within the moral and ethical beliefs of our cultural system. Whether it be in the privacy of our homes or among nations it’s really the same rooted battle.

    Past experience tells us that disordered characters generally do not change. And past history tells us that the world’s situation can get a lot worse. Humans are capable of great evil. Just ask any Jewish survivor of the concentration camps.

    Quote from Dr. Simon:
    “there’s always a chance we won’t make it as a species (we might just exploit each other, abandon each other, kill each other, or sufficiently ignore our common needs and our resources to the extent we can no longer sustain human life as we know it). Nevertheless, it’s the challenge we face.”

  3. We need to assess people’s core beliefs that really aren’t apparent at first glance or second glance or always third glance.

    To be unscrupulously sleazy or evil one has to believe some damn twisted things to begin with, for example, “I can do as I please and I like it that way. Others can kiss my ***”, “Screwing others over is too good a pleasure to ignore” or “If someone’s so vulnerable, they’re a free hamburger and I like to take it as the offer. Delicious”, just to think up a few.

    But then there are some surreal things that some actually believe so sincerely. It’s not just a shock tactic. In that case it may be tempting to think that a person believing such nonsense is a misguided soul. Not so. Such a person is very disturbed, possibly very delusional and truly very dangerous.

  4. [Warning: Boring material ahead] Actually my (pseudo?) scientific representation of ongoing world war between neurotic vs character disturbance. Should be a good undergrad project. 🙂

    There is a part of game theory, called evolutionary stable strategy which has been applied to sociology, psychology and various other fields (See wiki for general overview https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolutionarily_stable_strategy)

    This covers various games like hawk-dove when played repeatedly in a population. We can see “neurotics” as doves, and “character disturbed” as hawks, and we have a theoretical representation of ongoing neurotic vs character disturbance war. Since two doves usually go along very fine, and doves avoid hawks, and two hawks destroy each other. So, a long-run state usually sees doves winning out as long as they manage to maintain a decent percentage in the population and do not get overrun. Payoff/Penalty is also important especially in dove vs hawk confrontation.

    Maybe hawks are increasing today, and simultaneously doves are getting better say compared to what they were 30 years back. We may need to wait for few hundred years before we see the results.

    Meanwhile, to increase our chances, we need to minimize the damage in dove vs hawk scenario, by detecting the hawks early and developing defensive weapons. First learning to defend self at individual level. Later, spreading awareness via our circles, educating, and supporting fellow doves. And even more, few enterprising things like blogs and forming local support groups.

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