Narcissistic Irreverence leads to haughtiness. Narcissists are too enamored of themselves to revere anything or anyone else. I’ve written recently on reverence and its role in character formation. (See: Sound Character Requires Reverence.) And I emphasized how reverence impacts how we relate. A reverent attitude inspires us to relate to all people and things in constructive ways.
Irreverent folks find no awe or wonder in the world around them. They’re far too impressed with themselves for that. They bask in their talents and abilities. Moreover, they harbor no gratitude toward the source of their gifts. They neither recognize nor experience awe of a “higher power.” So, they get to thinking too much of themselves. Narcissistic irreverence breeds the haughtiness that characterizes the disturbed character.
The Roots of Disdain
Unchecked, narcissistic irreverence inevitably leads to disdain. The haughty among us see those not like them as weak and inferior. The reverent soul seeks to elevate anyone or anything encountered. But the irreverent individual seeks only the elevation of self. Narcissistic irreverence is ultimately about placing oneself ahead of and above. As I’ve mentioned in countless workshops, it’s always about position. Passive narcissists already envision themselves as on top. Moreover, they feel entitled to be there. Active, or aggressive narcissists constantly jockey for position of advantage. (See also: Understanding The Aggressive Personalities.) They ruthlessly pursue power and dominance over others.
Narcissists have a hard time hiding their disdain. (See also: The Narcissist’s Disdain.) They lack the kind of healthy shame that comes with reverence and empathy. So, it doesn’t unnerve them to show their disrespect. They mock and belittle with ease. They love to taunt. These things come easily because of their grandiose self-image. And that grandiosity leaves no room in the heart for reverence.
All my books explore these issues and their roots during character development.
Reverence and Relationships
Toxic relationships are born of narcissistic irreverence. One simply can’t love what what can’t first appreciate. I’ll be saying more about this in the coming weeks. And I’ll explain why it’s often difficult to spot narcissistic irreverence early on in relationships.
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