Like most disturbed characters, manipulators are skilled liars. Most people, however can’t understand why such people lie so much, especially when it seems to serve no purpose. Some have even referred to repeat bashers of the truth as “pathological liars,” presuming that they have some kind of mental illness that makes them want to lie even when there doesn’t appear to be good reason to do it.
Disordered characters of all types, and especially manipulators always want to be in a position of advantage over others. They never want the “playing field” of interpersonal relations to be “level.” They want to have the upper hand and to keep you in a one-down position. Lying is simply one of the best ways to accomplish this end. More than most, manipulators don’t want you to have their number. They don’t want you to know who they really are or what they really want. That would give you a position of equal advantage in dealing with them. They would rather that you have to be constantly in the dark, frequently second-guessing, or oblivious to the reality of circumstances. So, even when the truth would do just fine, they’d rather lie. It give them a position of advantage.
In upcoming posts, I’ll be exploring other tactics disturbed characters use to manipulate others and resist taking responsibility.