A sincere Happy Thanksgiving weekend to all. I hope this holiday season will find you in good health and enjoying harmonious relations.
I want to say a few words about gratitude and its role in character. But before I do, I want to share some things for which I am deeply grateful:
My professional life has always seemed more like a dream or miracle. I’ve gotten to do two things I once thought impossible. First, I’ve witnessed the lessons I’ve learned and shared help empower thousands of folks in troubled relationships. And second, I’ve witnessed hundreds of troubled characters face their flaws and work to become better persons. Who could ask for more? I know I couldn’t. Moreover, I shouldn’t. I simply have too much for which to be grateful.
But if all I’ve mentioned isn’t, enough, I would be remiss not to mention my writing. This blog and my four books have been the work of a lifetime. And no author enjoys the success I’ve enjoyed without incredible public support. From the beginning, there has been no hype or high-profile advertising, but mostly solid word of mouth. One person telling another, over many years. And the results have been more than edifying. So, from the bottom of my heart, “Thank you!” Your validation and promotion of my work has always inspired and sustained me. It’s impossible to say how much such support means to me.
Thanksgiving and Character
I’ve written before about gratitude and its role in character formation. (See: The Grateful Character Feels Obliged.) And recent research now matches my experience. Gratitude begets a sense of indebtedness. Moreover, folks who feel indebted sense an obligation to give back. That’s why Thanksgiving means more than a single holiday. Responsible people render it daily in their undertakings. But in this age of rampant narcissism and entitlement, cultivating gratitude is difficult. So, far too few give thanks with their actions. Rather, they take, use, exploit, and injure – all for their own gratification. And they do such things without compunction because they feel entitled. We have so much. And too many among us take it all for granted.
So, over these holidays I hope grateful hearts will reign. And I pray that even those of you who have suffered hurt will find some reason for thanksgiving.
Sunday, November 26, 2017 will feature a rebroadcast of an earlier program. I’m away visiting family, but will be back live next week.