Egomaniacal Characters

Egomaniacal Characters

Egomaniacal characters are narcissists out of control. Unfortunately, these days there are plenty of narcissists. It’s the phenomenon of our age of entitlement, relativism, and permissiveness. While many don’t realize it, narcissism actually exists along a spectrum. (For more on this, see pp. 29-30 & 85-95 in Character Disturbance.) There are personalities who possess narcissistic tendencies or traits. Then, there are full-blown narcissistic personalities. Some of these personalities can be rightfully considered disordered.

By nature, narcissists are folks who are too full of themselves. Now, there’s nothing wrong with thinking highly of yourself. But narcissists carry things too far. As one famous psychologist once said, they’re “legends in their own minds.” And some carry their sense of greatness and self-importance to a pathological extreme. Such egomaniacal characters wreak considerable havoc in relationships. And often, their own lives end up a shipwreck, too. Imposing few boundaries or limits on themselves, they’re often a disaster just waiting to happen.

Egomaniacal characters use and abuse others without compunction. Why? Because they’re so self-adoring they can’t consider anything or anyone else. They see themselves as above it all. For them, there simply is no higher power. So, they’re subordinate to no one. And that’s a big problem. They see themselves as above all the rules others choose to play by. So, they do as they please, without care or concern about injuring.

Grandiosity Bordering on Delusionality

I’ve mentioned before that there are two main types of narcissists. There’s the vulnerable or compensatory, or more “neurotic” type. (For more on this see: Two Main Varieties of Narcissists.) Then there’s the purely character-disturbed grandiose type. Egomaniacal characters are grandiose narcissists. And their grandiosity sometimes borders on the delusional. That is, their sense of their own power, worth, capability, etc. rarely lines up with reality. True, they may sometimes have a legitimate claim to fame. But they take things too far. Narcissists neither recognize or respect a higher power. And reality represents a higher power of sorts. So, they play fast and loose with the truth. For them, reality is what they say it is.

The term “mania” comes from both the Greek and Latin words that denote a particular kind of madness. It’s a madness that comes from unbridled elation. And true mania is a form of psychosis. It occurs when brain chemistry goes awry. And this can happen to individuals of very decent character. But not all egomaniacs are victims of errant biochemistry. (Although all too often these days they may be diagnosed that way.) Some narcissists become egomaniacs because they never arrest their grandiose tendencies. Eventually, therefore, things inevitably get out of hand.

Egomaniacal Characters in Relationships

Anyone who’s lived with an egomaniacal character knows what a hellacious experience it can be. You can’t talk sense to such folks. And you can’t make much sense of their behavior, either. Worse, you can never predict what they might do to injure you. You simply don’t warrant their consideration. To them, you’re most often a mere object – an instrument. You’re not a second thought, so they don’t give a second thought to how they treat you. There’s no reasoning with someone whose sense of self borders on the insane.

The Spiritual Dilemma

The dilemma of egomaniacal characters is ultimately a spiritual one. They can’t relate to you in a healthy way because their relationship with a higher power is so unhealthy. It’s hard for them to even conceive of a power greater than them. And they abhor the notion of serving a higher power. That’s why they can only be self-serving. (I discuss this more thoroughly in The Judas Syndrome.)

Some egomaniacal characters are great at what I call spiritual lip service. That is, they’ll profess all manner of spiritual centeredness. But in their hearts, they have no connection to something greater. As I mentioned last week, their ego is so large that there’s simply no room for anyone or anything else. So, ultimately the solution to the dilemma is neither psychiatric nor psychological. It’s spiritual. But is there hope? And if so, how does one reach such a person? I’ll share some thoughts on that next week.

5 thoughts on “Egomaniacal Characters

  1. ‘ Egotism ‘ – Poem by Gordon Whittaker

    I had a date, but in the rain I let her wait.
    She was a ravenous beautiful creature,
    deserving of me, for I had caught her eye.
    The thought of her waiting especially for me
    made my confidence and egotism run high.
    I hopped of the bus with a jaunty step
    as I hoisted my umbrella in the air.
    I felt really good, she was still waiting there.

    Hello been waiting long, ? I casually asked of her,
    She was wet through to the skin
    the rain was pouring off her chin.
    No words passed her lips
    instead she gave me a long frightening look,
    followed by a lightening left hook.
    Another sledgehammer blow put me down on the floor,
    my senses were running amok.
    I was being beaten up by something in a frock.

    I was brought to by the words ‘ what happened to you “
    I must have had a blackout was my reply,
    As I was helped to my feet, I thanked the guy.
    My pride and egotism would not let me tell the truth,
    as I walked down the street nursing a very loose tooth.
    But now I have seen the light and felt the pain,
    I shall never leave another girl waiting in the rain.

    1. J,
      Its been a long time, a perfect fit and poetically accurate, both MMarg and Daniel applied this poem in some telling ways.

      Pride/ego vs Humility/kindness Putting on the Mask or being Genuine.

      Is it so hard to be real? Instead, maybe the gent could had asked: Can I be of service and share my umbrella? or here, you may have the umbrella you need it more than I and at the same time look her in the eye and then say, “I know you must be wet and cold and you are beautiful.” God Bless or Be Well. Authenticity of the heart.

      Note: If you plan to give your umbrella under these circumstances and not just for the reasons of meeting someone be sure to put your name and email on it. If its lost, it can always be returned to its owner.

  2. I like the idea of parables. You tell the egomaniac a story about the harm another guy did and he denounces the guy before he realizes you’re talking about HIM. It takes him outside of himself for a bit!

  3. Reminds me of the prophet Nathan dropping the bomb on King David (via parable) about his adultery and murder.

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