Dr. Simon’s New Book on Disturbed Characters Now Available

Now you can finally learn the truth about the manipulative, aggressive, narcissistic, and other responsibility-challenged people in your life.  These are the people who are content with themselves but who make everyone around them miserable.  After several unavoidable delays, orders can now be placed for Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of our Age.

The international success of my first book, In Sheep’s Clothing:  Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, told me that people were hungry for understanding not only about manipulators, but also about all the problem characters in their lives.  In Character Disturbance, I present a framework by which almost anyone can understand all the major personality types, what makes them the way they are, how they think, how they conduct their relations with others, and what a reasonable person has to do to avoid being abused or exploited by life’s most unsavory characters.  I even give examples of therapeutic encounters with such types to illustrate the futility of traditional intervention methods and what really has to happen to make a difference in the disturbed character’s modus operandi.

Advance orders for the book should be filled in a couple of weeks.  So order early because demand will be high.

4 thoughts on “Dr. Simon’s New Book on Disturbed Characters Now Available

  1. I am a counselor in training at the University of Phoenix, Tucson AZ. I see clients in the Counseling Skills Center under supervision of Licensed Professional Counselors. Recently I saw a client who is experiencing PTSD from the emotional, verbal and physical abuse of her ex-husband. After being on her own for about 10 years she took in a younger man who does not work, uses alcohol and marijuana, keeps the house and cooks while she works and pays for everything. Last week she reported that her anger came up and she “beat the crap” out of him and called him by the name of her ex. My feeling is that she has not crossed over to being a perpetrator, that she is still being manipulated, controlled and abused by this boyfriend. Two things she reported were significant to me about this event: 1. that he was careful to protect his face and head with his arms (most people don’t think of that); 2. at some point he put his head in her lap and said, “hit again real hard and get it all out of you”. The last statement diffused her rage and she could not hit him again…

    An outreach group leader at the local shelter for battered women talked to me and suggested that I read your books. I will buy them both next week and I am reading everything I can online.

    My idea is to do a psychoeducation session with her next week about what is abuse, all the things that are abuse before one is struck, how to avoid arguments and to walk away before getting to that point of acting out and thinking it is the ex-husband she is hitting. I also plan to refer her to the battered women’s educational program where she can have an intake, attend psychoeducational support groups and have individual counseling as well.

    Thank you for your work, your insight and your stand for character, honor and patriotism. I work in a behavioral health agency for people on welfare or social security benefits. It appears to me that our system enables people to be weak, non motivated and entitled. I think your work on character will explain many things that I see in my clients and why they do not get better over time.

    I would appreciate any comments or suggestions you may want to share with me.

    Sincerely,

    AH

    1. Thank you for your comments, Alta. While it’s not possible to make any judgments about the situation you describe, there are some important things to remember: Character disturbance runs along a continuum and it’s quite possible for “victims” of another’s abuse to have character deficiencies of their own. Also, sometimes biases influence our overall perceptions and cloud our judgment with respect to the overall assessment of a situation. One always has to decide what issues and concerns predominate and need the most attention first. And, as I point out in “Character Disturbance,” for some, any neurosis they have is buried deep under layers of character disturbance whereas for others the opposite is true. Aside from the fact that many disturbed characters have been so “enabled” for so long that they’re simply “not ready” to change, the biggest reason they don’t get better is that their character issues aren’t the major focus of the therapeutic interchange. Change always takes place in the here and now, and the therapist’s office can be a fairly powerful stage for that if the interaction is conducted with careful attendance to those issues.

  2. Wow, I am not a pyschologist, but have read enough and seen enough to know that this guy who got the crap beat out of him by an older woman is not the problem. She is. She may have been a victim of abuse, but she herself is a manipulater. She set him up consciously or unconsiously. She is the bread winner and sets all the rules. If she tolerates is smoking and alcohol, she has to be a smoker and drink or again she is setting him up because she had an angle. Again, because she is the bread winner and pays for everything. The person who has the money is always in control of the situation and they know it.

    I would not coddle this woman. I would clearly state the boundaries she crossed and what she agreed to and then decided she didn’t like it and what the consequences are when you do this. Basically she set up a young man to be her victim. If she is able to financially support herself and another person, she has far greater issues than PTSD. More like Passive Aggressive and sadistic issues. More importantly she crossed the boundary to physical violence,which is assault. She should have directed this anger to her ex husband. He may use alcohol and mauranjana, but he wasn’t beating her. That is the clue. Even more important clue she stopped when he said go one get it all out. I think people who are victimised as children up until the age of 25 are the ones that unconcsiously victimize another or don’t at all (all depends on the circumstances). Adults who tolerate abuse for whatever reason don’t typically go out and victimize innocent bystanders or set them up. They . It seems like she was abused as a child. I would find out who her last husband was and get his side of the story and then make your clinical observations.

    Just my thoughts on what you wrote. I am doing my own reseach on distorted characters and have come up with my own opinions. Dr. George Simon has provided me with a great deal of insight on this subject. Again I am not a psychologist, just a human being trying to understand other human beings and stay as far away from disorted or disturbed characters as I can get.

    1. You make some very good points here. As I mentioned in my prior comment, there’s really a lot going on here that makes it impossible to render a fully accurate assessment. In these days of rampant character deficiency, there’s plenty that could be said with regard to the issues both parties in this story have. Suffice it to say, however, that firm limits and boundaries always need to be drawn and enforced when it comes to the kind of irresponsible behavior exemplified here. And we have to be very careful not to ascribe traditional causative explanations for such behaviors. Such explanations have rarely proved valid and they can distort our judgment about how to avoid “enabling” problem behaviors.

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