Finding the Right Help Can Be Quite Challenging
Character disorder experts are hard to find. Just ask anyone who’s tried to find one. Sure, many therapists will say they understand personality and character disturbances. But then when you go to them for help you find they just don’t get it at all. In fact, you might even experience therapy-induced trauma. That happens when the therapist wholly or partly faults you. Worse, they might even take the side of your character-disturbed partner! (Many disturbed characters are very skilled at the art of impression management.) There’s nothing worse than mustering the courage to seek help only to feel let down or beaten up.
Another Year of Consultations
This year, more folks than ever have contacted me for consultations. And, as always, it’s been particularly edifying work for me. The consultations are not formal therapy or assessment. Nor do they directly advise on how to solve specific problems. Rather, they give me an opportunity to expand upon and clarify the principles I write about in all my books and articles. And they give me a forum to coach folks on how to best put those principles into practice and empower themselves. Nothing brings me greater satisfaction than helping empower folks who’ve been in one-down positions.
I’m very grateful for all the kind words that have come my way this past year. And I’m especially grateful to those who sent well-wishes my way after a consultation. But something very unusual has happened this year about which I’m happily surprised. More folks than ever have contacted me who’ve struggled with character impairments. These folks finally came to a place in their life where they knew they had to change. And because they couldn’t find the help they needed, they sought me out. (Remember, genuine character disorder experts are hard to find!) And I’m happy to say that a fair number of them have made some impressive strides. Change is hard. And it’s particularly hard for folks whose problem ways of thinking and acting have become engrained.
Some Very Special Things Are in the Works
The most frequent inquiries I get have to do with finding the right kind of help. Folks ask me if I know someone in their area who “gets it” with respect to character disturbance. I know character disorder experts are hard to find. And long ago I considered 2 things: certifying professionals who’d completed training at one of my workshops, and maintaining a referral roster. Both things quickly proved virtually impossible. But times and circumstances have changed! And soon I’ll be in talks with a company that will help develop a curriculum certify therapists. I’ll keep you posted on developments.
Work is also under way on my new studio that should be ready for various types of podcasting early next year. A new Character Matters will hit the podcast cybersphere. And 2 new programs, including a U-Tube-based TV program will debut. Stay tuned for more information on those things.
Well-Wishes for the Season
It’s hard to believe another year is fast coming to a close. It’s been an exciting year, and on many fronts. I’ll be doing less traveling next year, and more consultations. And, as I mentioned, I’ll be back on the air – at least in cyberspace. And there’s a special purpose for revising the former Character Matters program. As you may know, I’ve long been working on a re-write of a book on the 10 Commandments of Character. The new programs will help in that effort. Content from the programs will help in that re-write, hastening the day for its eventual release.
My sincerest best wishes to all the readers (both of this blog and my books and other works). May this holiday season be full of joy and good fortune. May your lives be free of unnecessary hardship and pain. I owe everything to you. For 24 years, one-person telling another about my books and other work has given me the career of a lifetime. (The first edition of In Sheep’s Clothing debuted in 1995!) So, in the coming years, I’m going to do my best to give back with what I feel I have to offer.