Character awareness is more than just knowing how much character matters. It’s being fully conscious and conscientious about one’s own character. And it’s properly assessing the character of our relationships and relationship partners. Darkness always descends upon a situation where we’re too oblivious. And that’s especially true when it comes to matters of character. For if there’s anything events in recent years should have taught us, it’s how much unnecessary pain can ensue when we dismiss the importance of character.
Most of the time, we all operate on an automatic drive of sorts. We let our habits, urges, and desires, define our moments of encounter. Sometimes we come to our senses, but usually after the fact. But when we’re fully aware, we’re faced with a most daunting dillemma. Will do we act reflexively, as we’ve become programed to act, or will we do as we ardently hope others would act toward us? And this choice applies not only how we behave toward others but also how we treat ourselves.
Character Matters All the Time and Everywhere
You can certainly lack character awareness. But you can’t escape character and its importance. Societies and cultures have certain characters. Businesses and organizations also have different characters. And, of course, all of our relationships have a character to them. And whatever that particular character is, it will either be relatively benign and growth-inspiring, or toxic in some way and conflict-fostering.
All my years of training and experience have brought me to one point. It’s the same point that the famous psychologist Martin E.P. Seligman came to, and who I quote in the opening pages of Character Disturbance (see p. 18). Character matters. Perhaps more than anything. And perhaps now more than ever before. (See: Character Matters Now More Than Ever.)
We have it within us to be more than animals. And growing ourselves emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually is what this life is all about. Moreover, our survival and prosperity depend on us getting this task right. That’s only part of why I’ve dedicated my career to facilitating character awareness. The path to integrity begins with understanding and accepting the pivotal importance of character.
And Old Familiar Wish for a New Year
This year has been a challenging one in many ways. But it’s brought us unparrelelled opportunities for learning important lessons, especially the importance of character. It’s also been an amazing year for consultations. That’s because for the first time ever, requests from folks seeking to grow in character approache the number of requests from folks dealing with toxic personalities. So, my hope for the new year is the same as always. I hope my work inspires the kind of growth in folks that will help change the character of our world for the better.
Wishing everyone a happy, prosperous, and fulfiling New Year!