Supportive relationships have highly recognizable core characteristics that sadly are in short supply in our character-impaired times.
These days, too many relationships lack quality and growth potential. And that often includes the relationship we have with ourselves.
Affirmation dependency is overly relying on external sources for validation of one’s worth. You develop it by not properly understanding what your worth genuinely is and where it stems from.
Because they lack empathy, denigration of others is pure sport for narcissists. They readily enjoy gratifying themselves at the expense of others.
While character disturbance is widepread, it occurs along spectra of both type and degree. Not every empathy-impaired person is a psychopath. And not all folks with narcissistic traits and tendencies are the same. Getting the right information and finding the right help can be a real challenge.
Shame can be certainly be a bad thing. And some shame is truly toxic. But in our days of rampant character dysfunction, shamelessness is a much bigger problem than too much shame. The most disturbed characters among us are the most shameless.
Narcissistic characters run the gamut, from relatively benign “amorous,” “charming,” types to heartless and predatory types.
Words have power. So it behooves us to be mindful of them.
Narcissism, in its varied and often subtle forms, is so prevalent, it can go unnoticed. And we can even give it a pass or enable it. That is, of course, until the worst manifestations of it drag us to unbearable depths.
This year has been a challenging one in many ways. But it’s brought us unparrelelled opportunities for learning important lessons, especially the importance of character.