Folks whose ways of seeing and doing things are so toxic that they’re rightfully considered “character-disordered” always cause big problems in relationships. And presently, the prognosis for change is extremely poor for the significantly disordered. There’s more hope for the mildly disturbed character, but the motivation and mode of intervention have to be just right!
You can sum up what all major life turnarounds require in one word: willingness.
Humble, honest self-reckoning is more than liberating. It’s also empowering. Truth, in its essence, is both power and freedom.
Supportive relationships have highly recognizable core characteristics that sadly are in short supply in our character-impaired times.
Because they lack empathy, denigration of others is pure sport for narcissists. They readily enjoy gratifying themselves at the expense of others.
An entitlement culture is behind many of our social ills. It fosters narcissism and wreaks havoc with intimate relationships.
Shame can be certainly be a bad thing. And some shame is truly toxic. But in our days of rampant character dysfunction, shamelessness is a much bigger problem than too much shame. The most disturbed characters among us are the most shameless.
Pathological heartlessness, combined with egomania, characterizes humanity’s most dangerous predators.
Narcissistic malignancy is largely about empathy deficiency and grandiosity. Folks who don’t care and feel superior will wantonly use and abuse.
Narcissistic characters run the gamut, from relatively benign “amorous,” “charming,” types to heartless and predatory types.