Category Archives: Relationships

Trauma Recovery and the Present Moment

The thoughts running through our head are either secure or insecure, positive or negative. But in any given moment, we have the power to change them. 

Strengthening New Habits with Self-Reinforcement

Affirm yourself when you recognizing when you recognize old habits or self-defeating cycles. And affirm yourself again for every step in new, positive directions. You’ll be well on your way to more empowered living.

Empowered Living in the Here and Now

Abuse victims and toxic relationship survivors are used to doing all the suffering while their tormentors seem to get off scott free. But with time and dedicated rehearsing, survivors can cultivate empowering habits. And when they remember the all-important task of self-reinforcing their efforts, the quest for empowered living gets a bit easier.

Avoid Self-Blame to Maximally Empower

Self-blame in the aftermath of a toxic relationship is common. Victims blame themselves for not realizing things sooner and for tolerating things too long.

When the Mask Comes Off a Covert Character

Under the gaslight, you stop trusting your gut. But once the mask comes off your manipulator you realize your gut was right all along and you’re free to start trusting yourself and your instincts once again.

Adult Children of Gaslighters

Adult children of gaslighters often have an impaired sense of self. Accordingly, such folks tend to be the covert narcissist’s favorite prey.

When Covert Narcissists Gaslight Children

Covert narcissists gaslight their children in many ways. And this does great psychological damage, often leading to a lifetime of self-doubt.

Adult Children of Vulnerable Narcissists

It devastates a child’s self-image to feel demeaned, belittled, or degraded. But sadly, as an adult, a child with poor self-worth can unwittingly repeat the same compensatory pattern of trying to prove their worth by comparing themselves to and discounting others.