Category Archives: Relationships

The 10 Qualities of Wholesome Character

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Wholesome character is in particularly short supply these days. The problem is not just narcissism. And it’s not just antisociality. Character disturbances encompass a wide spectrum of problematic traits and behaviors that vary in types and degrees of severity. It’s bad enough that we have such a shortage of wholesome character. And it’s bad enough that behavior once regarded as unusual, unbecoming, or even outrageous, has become normalized. But what’s even more appalling is that we seem to have forgotten what good character is all about and what it takes to cultivate and promote it. 

Narcissistic Rages and Their Forms and Causes

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Narcissistic rages are common in abusive relationships. But characterizing every rager as “thin-skinned” is a potentially fatal mistake.

Charm and the Potential for Harm

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Charm should generally sound an alarm, because its aim is to disarm, and that always carries the potential for harm, whether intended or not.

Narcissists Exaggerate Just About Everything

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Narcissists exaggerate to advance their image-promoting agendas. Tolerating or enabling this behavior harms everyone, even the narcissist.

The Many Forms of Violence

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There are many forms of violence. Physical, emotional, and verbal, are just a few. But all violence harms, and fuels a destructive cycle.

Impression Management Skill and Gaslighting

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Impression management skill and gaslighting often go hand-in-hand. When others don’t see your nemesis the same way you have come to see them, it can make you feel crazy, which is what the gaslighting effect is all about.

Healthy Versus Unhealthy Self-Image

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A person can see themself as inherently defective, inadequate, unlovable, etc., and that type of unhealthy self-image can cause many problems in life and lead them to forge relationships for a lot of unhealthy reasons. But a person can also harbor a self-image that’s distorted for sure, but in an overly glowing or grandiose, as opposed to negative sort of way. And persons who think too much of themselves or want others to adore them cause very different problems in relationships.