Hot headed characters in relationships are notoriously problematic. They’re easily irritated and can’t seem to regain control once they lose their temper. They might promise to behave better the next time. But that time never comes. All seems well when they have their way. But when they feel denied or confronted – watch out!
A Sound Ego A sound ego is strong one. But it’s also an ego in proper balance. We need our egos to operate in this world. But big problems occur when our egos are unhealthy. So, we need an ego that is strong, balanced, and rightly-purposed. Ego-inflation lies at the heart of most narcissism. Some … Continue reading How a Sound Ego Operates
The more character disturbed someone is, the more problematic it is when they seek dominance.
Some folks don’t just boast of greatness. They actually believe in their superiority. And they rarely waver in that conviction even in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
Narcissists cannot really love because they can’t get beyond themselves. Some can charm convincingly, making you think it’s all about you. But when you scratch below the surface, you’ll find that it’s always really about them.
Some narcissists primarily want attention. Others just want to be right, justified – affirmed. More pathological narcissists seek adulation. And the most pathological narcissists want to be adored. Legends in their own minds, they consider themselves worthy of worship.
For a culture steeped in egocentricity, entitlement, relativism, and permissiveness to change, hearts must change first. But as they do, this age of narcissism will eventually come to an end.
Wants and needs are not the same things. And sometimes what we crave, no matter how badly, is the last thing we truly need.
We all want the disturbed characters we know to have a change of mind. We want them to see things differently – as we and others see them. And we want them to behave differently, too, like most of the responsible people we know. But mostly we want them to WANT to see and do things differently. And that, of course, is a matter of heart.
Meaningful behavior change only occurs with a change of heart. But a change of heart can only occur with committed, ongoing behavior change.