Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.
Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.
As I’ve asserted in countless workshops: “Internalization of a prohibition is essentially an act of submission.” Narcissists see no need for that. And aggressive personalities fight tooth and nail against it.
Here’s my sincerest hope for everyone on this Thanksgiving holiday: Generously display your gratitude for all you have and to all with whom you come into contact.
During a remarkable interview, Dr. Carter and I sometimes use different terms, but we describe the same realities – perspectives that differ considerably from those taught during our professional training but which both experience and abundant recent research soundly validate.
In the shallowness of today’s culture, many find themselves virtually starving for love. Languishing in relationships they once believed seemed a passport to unending joy, too many find themselves depressed, hurting, questioning, and spiritually dying! But there is hope! Love is and always has been the answer. But for it to transform and enrich your life, you have to know what genuine love really is.
Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand. In fact, it’s a manipulator’s astute use of tactics that induces the gaslighting effect.
Some folks never seem to learn or change their ways, even in the face of failure. Real change, meaningful, lasting change, is a matter of the heart, not the brain.
Personal empowerment is largely about appreciating how different looking good is from being good. It’s also about recognizing and understanding the wide spectrum of character disturbance we experience these days and how to deal with it.