For a culture steeped in egocentricity, entitlement, relativism, and permissiveness to change, hearts must change first. But as they do, this age of narcissism will eventually come to an end.
Wants and needs are not the same things. And sometimes what we crave, no matter how badly, is the last thing we truly need.
I have confidence that integrity of character will again come to be as expected as all the dysfunction we’ve experienced for years. And it’s toward that end that I’ve written Essentials for the Journey. Let us all resolve to make character matter again.
Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.
Gaslighting victims feel so much more alone and self-doubting when they find themselves among a sea of folks who view the disturbed character differently.
Smugness and glibness are red flags for the most serious types of character disturbance.
When should someone’s charm and amiability sound an alarm? When charm is accompanied by smugness, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist.
Folks whose ways of seeing and doing things are so toxic that they’re rightfully considered “character-disordered” always cause big problems in relationships. And presently, the prognosis for change is extremely poor for the significantly disordered. There’s more hope for the mildly disturbed character, but the motivation and mode of intervention have to be just right!
Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.
Humble, honest self-reckoning is more than liberating. It’s also empowering. Truth, in its essence, is both power and freedom.