Category Archives: Covert-Aggression

How Character Disturbed Charmers Gaslight

Folks exiting toxic relationships with character-impaired charmers can easily fall into the trap of spending time and energy trying to get others to see what they came to see the hard way.

Honesty is Crucial to Good Character

We once widely regarded truth as the “best policy.” That’s partly because we understood that it always outs in the end. But it’s also because the it mattered to us more than it seems to these days.

Dominance Seeking Disturbed Characters

The more character disturbed someone is, the more problematic it is when they seek dominance.

Wants and Needs Are Not the Same

Wants and needs are not the same things. And sometimes what we crave, no matter how badly, is the last thing we truly need.

Resolved to Making Character Matter Again

I have confidence that integrity of character will again come to be as expected as all the dysfunction we’ve experienced for years. And it’s toward that end that I’ve written Essentials for the Journey. Let us all resolve to make character matter again.

How Therapy Induced Trauma Happens

Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.

Gaslighting by Proxy Comes in Many Forms

Gaslighting victims feel so much more alone and self-doubting when they find themselves among a sea of folks who view the disturbed character differently.

Smugness and Glibness are Major Red Flags

Smugness and glibness are red flags for the most serious types of character disturbance.

Sometimes Charm Should Sound An Alarm

When should someone’s charm and amiability sound an alarm? When charm is accompanied by smugness, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist.

Narcissistic Controllers Use and Abuse

Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.