Hot headed characters in relationships are notoriously problematic. They’re easily irritated and can’t seem to regain control once they lose their temper. They might promise to behave better the next time. But that time never comes. All seems well when they have their way. But when they feel denied or confronted – watch out!
We once widely regarded truth as the “best policy.” That’s partly because we understood that it always outs in the end. But it’s also because the it mattered to us more than it seems to these days.
The more character disturbed someone is, the more problematic it is when they seek dominance.
Thinking before acting is a good thing. It’s one mark of character maturity. But what we think and how we think matters even more.
Smugness and glibness are red flags for the most serious types of character disturbance.
Folks whose ways of seeing and doing things are so toxic that they’re rightfully considered “character-disordered” always cause big problems in relationships. And presently, the prognosis for change is extremely poor for the significantly disordered. There’s more hope for the mildly disturbed character, but the motivation and mode of intervention have to be just right!
Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.
Humble, honest self-reckoning is more than liberating. It’s also empowering. Truth, in its essence, is both power and freedom.
While character disturbance is widepread, it occurs along spectra of both type and degree. Not every empathy-impaired person is a psychopath. And not all folks with narcissistic traits and tendencies are the same. Getting the right information and finding the right help can be a real challenge.
Pasive-aggressive personalities are very different from their covert-aggressive counterparts. And their manner of coping is incredibly self-defeating as opposed to self-advancing.