Many folks who think they’re codependent, or have been labeled so, actually aren’t! Are you one of them? Maybe you’re one of those folks who got manipulated into a situation of forced dependency, making it extra hard for you to break free. Labeling you codependent can be just one more form of abuse.
No amount of caring can magically bring to health a person of disturbed mindset and heart. But genuinely loving relationships can go a long way toward helping heal old wounds and facilitating positive personal growth.
We’re naturally drawn to attractive traits like charm, charisma, and likeability. But mistaking these traits for character is dangerous.
Solid character requires a healthy, balanced ego – one neither too weak nor overpowering, and neither too meek nor grandiose.
Wanting power and control over things in your life is not an inherently bad thing. But the unscrupulous ways some characters go about this can devastate a relationship.
The urge to expose your covert abuser is natural. But it’s frought with danger and can lead to even greater depression.
Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.
Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.
During a remarkable interview, Dr. Carter and I sometimes use different terms, but we describe the same realities – perspectives that differ considerably from those taught during our professional training but which both experience and abundant recent research soundly validate.