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Wholesome Relationships Require Character

Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character

It Takes a Village – But What Kind?

For a child – or even an adult – to grow positively in character, it indeed takes a village. But the kind of village matters. A community or culture that promotes attitudes of entitlement, excessive self-focus, instant gratification, poor self-regulation, etc. will only help produce individuals impaired in their capacity to relate to others in wholesome, productive ways. That’s what character disturbance is all about. 

A Fulfilling Life through Character Integrity

While character integrity is essential for civil, wholesome relationships, it’s also, surprisingly, the key to a genuinely rich and fulfilling life!

Senseless Violence and Character Dysfunction

Senseless violence keeps increasing. And character – more folks among us possessing solid internal controls and resources, is society’s best insurance against it.

Subtle Manipulation of the Heart

Folks skilled in manipulation of the heart know what to say or do to win you over. They aim not so much to love you but to get you to be enamored of them.

Lingering Gaslighting Effects

Lingering gaslighting effects can make you doubt yourself and your judgment even after you’ve come to know better about your partner and their tactics.

Why You’re Probably Not Codependent

Many folks who think they’re codependent, or have been labeled so, actually aren’t! Are you one of them? Maybe you’re one of those folks who got manipulated into a situation of forced dependency, making it extra hard for you to break free. Labeling you codependent can be just one more form of abuse.

Genuinely Loving Relationships Heal and Grow

No amount of caring can magically bring to health a person of disturbed mindset and heart. But genuinely loving relationships can go a long way toward helping heal old wounds and facilitating positive personal growth.

Mistaking Attractive Traits for Character

We’re naturally drawn to attractive traits like charm, charisma, and likeability. But mistaking these traits for character is dangerous.